Red Flag or Green Flag?

Is it a red flag, a green flag, or does it depend? Rate relationship behaviours together and debate the grey ones.

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They keep a detailed spreadsheet of shared expenses

About Red/Green Flag for Couples

The Red Flag / Green Flag game took TikTok by storm and became one of the most popular relationship discussion formats online. It works because it surfaces values and boundaries in a playful, non-confrontational way. What one person sees as a green flag, another might see as a red flag, and those differences spark the most interesting conversations about what really matters to each of you.

Sample questions to get you started

They keep a detailed spreadsheet of shared expenses
They text back within seconds, every single time
They're best friends with their ex
They plan surprise dates without asking
They don't post about the relationship on social media
They remember every little thing you've ever said
They prefer to spend every free moment with you
They have a close friend of the opposite gender
They don't like going to your family events
They cry during emotional movies

Tap the game above to play through all prompts.

How to play Red/Green Flag

Grab your partner, sit face-to-face or curl up on the couch.
Open this page on a phone or laptop and tap to start.
Take turns answering, reacting, and asking follow-up questions.
No timer, no pressure, the goal is to slow down and connect.

Why couples love this game

Psychologists find that novel, playful experiences release dopamine and rebuild attraction in long-term relationships. Red/Green Flag works because it creates a structured excuse to ask things you'd normally skip, and laugh at the answers together. A handful of prompts is often enough to turn a regular Tuesday into a real date night.

Tips to make it more fun

Put phones face-down for anything unrelated to the game.
Set the mood, dim lights, a drink, zero distractions.
If an answer surprises you, ask "why?" before moving on.
Rotate who goes first each round so it stays balanced.
Save your favorite answers, they're gold to laugh about later.

Frequently asked questions

What's the difference between a red flag and a dealbreaker?+

A red flag is a warning sign worth discussing. A dealbreaker is a non-negotiable. This game helps couples explore where those lines are for each of them.

Why do couples disagree on red/green flags?+

Different life experiences, values, and attachment styles shape what we see as concerning or appealing. Disagreements are normal and healthy to discuss!

Is this game good for new relationships?+

Great for new relationships! It helps you learn about each other's boundaries and values early, in a fun and non-confrontational way.